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Choices

They say that the hardest part of any decision is making it. We make decisions every day, but not all of them are potentially life changing. Sometimes, however, life presents us with tough choices where our decision may determine our future way of life, level of happiness, income, etc.

Making the right choice would always be easier if we could somehow look into the future and observe the consequences of different choices and then choose the option that presents the most attractive future scenario. The problem is that that is not an option, and we are left to trust our intuition, gut feeling and common sense.

I recently read a book, in which the author argued that if you were ever in doubt about whether an argument was logical or based on your gut feeling, then just know that your gut feeling cannot argue against itself. Your mind, on the other hand, can lay out arguments for and against almost any case.

The question is, how do we make the right choice when our gut feeling tells us one thing, but our mind can easily argue against it? How do we shut down this doubt that’s being voiced in our subconscious mind? Sometimes, I guess we just have to trust our innermost voice and take a leap of faith. Is it scary? Oh, you bet! But the hard choices in life are those that hold the potential to change our lives and hopefully for the better.

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7 responses to “Choices”

  1. Tony "T-Bird" Burgess Avatar
    Tony “T-Bird” Burgess

    Then there is the eternal battle of the head and heart. Sometimes they are in synch but often times on the battlefield.

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    1. 소희 Avatar
      소희

      Very true. No wonder there’s no peace in the world when we are so rarely at peace within ourselves.

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  2. korean1984 Avatar
    korean1984

    I have just finished catching up on your posts since January. I don’t read blogs as often as I used to. I am glad to hear you are somewhat better. I have been struggling with some issues and decisions of my own, and the things you have mentioned in the last few posts have been very useful.
    As ever you continue to be an inspiration to me when it comes to language learning. Mine has fallen by the wayside over the last year but I am hoping to get back to it soon. All the very best. 🙂

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    1. 소희 Avatar
      소희

      Thank you so much for your support! While I am doing better than I was six months ago, I’m far from okay. But I’ll keep on fighting till I get there. Sorry to hear that you have been struggling yourself. Hope all works out for the best. Sending lots of support right back. 😊

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  3. sb Avatar
    sb

    Maybe “sleep on it” (심사숙고하다, 곰곰히 생각하다) and see if your gut still says the same thing after 5-10 days?? If so, that’s a strong signal.

    Also make sure you’re getting enough sleep and a manageable stress level, I find those factors help me really analyze why my gut is leaning hard in a certain direction.

    (E.g. recently I’m having to hire a new employee at work and my gut went hard against our initial lead candidate, to the dismay of my boss. After thinking about the reasons, I realized I just don’t think she shares our key cultural touchstones nor has a passion for our business. I was able to articulate these to my boss through specific examples – she didn’t start reading some books I’d recommended, she didn’t show full understanding of some emails I’d sent – and we have now moved on to looking at other prospects.)

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  4. WanderingTravelr Avatar
    WanderingTravelr

    Making big choices and decisions is absolutely terrifying, if I’m being honest with myself. Recently I had to make a decision of what my next step in life would be after I had finished my volunteering in Israel – and I was stuck not knowing what to do.

    But there’s a quote from a woman named Ruhiyyih Khanum that I came across that helped me and motivated me to making my final decision (a decision that I am still working towards – so we’ll see what will happen!).

    Here is the quote, I hope that it might help you like it helped me: ‘Abdu’l-Bahá said guidance was when the doors opened. If a person wants to do a thing, prays about it, questions his own sincerity and desire to do it, and still, in spite of all this, the way does not open for him to do it, then he should accept that it was not right thing for him to do. However, to be sure it was not the right thing, the prayers, the motive, and the effort to accomplish it must have been sincere and sustained in the first place. If he makes a half-hearted attempt to do something and fails, he cannot very well excuse himself by saying, “It was not the will of God!”

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    1. 소희 Avatar
      소희

      I love this! Thank you 🙂

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