Grief
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Life update
I’m currently back in Korea for a few weeks. I’m sure that many of my readers weren’t even aware that I had left Korea since my posts have been a lot less frequent lately. I actually went back to Denmark in late September and have been there through the fall. Lot’s of things have happened…
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The blood stain on the stone floor
Today marks the one-year anniversary of a tragic accident that changed me forever… “Do you want to see where it happened?”, my friend’s brother asked me when we were having dinner together in Ilsan a while ago. I looked at him. “You mean where he crashed?”, I asked, referring to the horrific bike crash that…
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Finding meaning in the meaningless
It’s now been nine months since my best friend was in an accident that would eventually cost him his life. One part of me still feels like I saw him only yesterday while another part of me feels like this hell has been going on for significantly longer than only nine months. Saying that the…
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Let it out and let it be
My parents tell me that when I was little, I would start to cry whenever there was a hole in my sock, somehow expecting it to hurt in the same way as when I fell and skinned my knee. Come to think of it, I also cried when they washed my hair. I guess I…
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How to deal with a grieving person – a universal guide
People who have lost a loved one generally report an improvement in their sense of grief after 6-12 months. Generally. Not everyone. Because everyone is different. The depth of their grief depends on who they have lost – a parent, grandparent, child, spouse, friend. On whether the death was expected or not, and on what…
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The power of memory and memories
I recently finished reading an interesting book about memory and memory techniques called “Moonwalking with Einstein”. It discusses how people can train to improve their memory, and how some people are gifted with an almost photographic memory while others have trouble remembering their own address. This naturally prompted me to think about my own memory.…
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Stress
스트레스는 만병의 근원이다 – Stress is the main cause of all kinds of illnesses. This is a common saying in Korean and something my best friend used to say from time to time if I ever mentioned anything about being stressed. And he was right, stress is truly the root of all evil. Googling the…
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Good days, bad days
We all have them, and if we think about it, it’s rare that a day is 100% one or the other. Good days can have something bad and bad days can have something good. Last week I had one of each and several days that were just something in between leaning to the bad side.…
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How I became a Korean teacher (feat. an honorary guest post)
I wrote in my previous post that I’m currently teaching Korean to a Danish girl. I greatly enjoy this for several reasons; it provides some structure, it holds me accountable, it’s a challenge, and she speaks Japanese so I can teach her while drawing parallels between Korean and Japanese, which may be one of my…
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Healing?
Many of my readers have been asking me how I’m doing lately. My answer depends on the day and sometimes even on the hour of that day. Sometimes I feel fine, other times completely miserable, and then other times I feel indifferent. However, there’s no doubt that being in Korea has been helpful in my…
Sofie to Korea 