Korean “self-respect”?

Allย Korean learners should be well aware of the many different levels of formality in the Korean language. There’s a big difference in how you say things depending on who you speak to or who you speak about. In fact, I have previously written a whole blog post about this particular Korean concept called ์•ž์กด๋ฒ•.

In simple terms there are two over-all levels called ๋ฐ˜๋ง (intimate language) and ์กด๋Œ“๋ง (polite language). These two levels are furthermore subdivided into a number of more blurry levels of politeness. Nonetheless, a concept not really talked about in any textbooks is ํ˜ผ์žฃ๋ง (self-language). This is simply the language you speak to yourself – in your head or out loud – depending on your level of sanity. You will often see Korean dramas where the main persons speak to themselves as a way of conveying their thoughts to their audience. I personally find this super-awkward but it’s a perfect example ofย ํ˜ผ์žฃ๋ง.

So, where’s the problem? Whenever I speak Korean and want to tell the other person in direct quotes what I have thought or said to myself, I accidentally always end up quoting myself using the respectful polite form ofย ์กด๋Œ“๋ง. An example could be: “์•„, ์ด๊ฑฐ ๋”ฑ ๋จน๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด์š””๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”. While the correct term for directly quoting myself would be “์•„, ์ด๊ฑฐ ๋”ฑ ๋จน๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด”๋ผ๊ณ ย ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”. This is naturally hilarious to Koreans, as no one would speak to themselves in formal language. After all, you should be fairly close with yourself and speaking in this way is pretty much along the lines ofย me thinking to myself in English “ah, Ms. Sofie what do youย want to eat today?”

An obvious solution could be indirect quotes likeย ์•„, ์ด๊ฑฐ ๋”ฑ ๋จน๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์–ด์š”, but I’d love to be able to do both indirect and direct quotes without constantly making Koreans around me laugh at my apparently far too elevated level of “self-respect”! Anyone else having this problem? Please share!

 

8 responses to “Korean “self-respect”?”

  1. Yup!!! I do this too!!! I’ve received my fair share of giggles… I think it’s because most learners are trying very hard not to offend anyone and therefore end up being polite even in situations where they ought to be casual.

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  2. I literally just finished my italki session where we talked about this! I was doing the exact same thing while explaining my thoughts of wanting to ride a certain ride at Tivoli, and she started giggling.. I totally get why they find it funny, but it is surprisingly difficult to change the habit of being formal. Especially when it’s in the middle of an otherwise formal conversation. Ah.. Some day.. Some day I will remember ใ…Žใ…Ž

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  3. oh yea definitely do this. Then there’s also the whole world of posting something on social media…what should the endings be then? Am I talking to myself or speaking to the people who will read it? Or when it’s just a statement you’re making about something, don’t you end it with ๋‹ค?

    btw, I’m sure you meant ๋–ก. ๐Ÿ˜›

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    1. Haha! I actually did mean ๋”ฑ as in ๋”ฑํžˆ ๋จน๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฒƒ ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. I use ์š” way too much and I never use ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ. I probably need to work on that a little. When I read the ๋”ฑ the first thought that popped into my head was ๋”ฑ๊ฐˆ๋น„ and my mouth started to water. ๐Ÿ˜‹

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  5. ์•„~ ๋‹ญ์ด, ๋‹ญ๊ฐˆ๋น„! thought you were talking about rice cake, which is delicious as well haha

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  6. I totally struggled with this too! Sometimes still do but I usually default to just saying the whole thought out like ๊ทธ ๊ฐœ์ดํฌ ๋ดค๋Š”๋ฐ ‘์ด๊ฑฐ ๋จน๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค~~’ *pause*๋ผ๋Š” ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ๋“ค์—ˆ์–ด์š”.

    Excellent post Sofie! I’m doing a little editing now on the interview video you did with Jonson and OMG you have improved SOOOO MUCH SO FAST! YOU ARE A MACHINE! So inspiring, as always.

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    1. Thank you so much Jeremy! That truly means a lot coming from you! ๐Ÿ™‚

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